To me, it basically means to be in touch with one's desires, sources of fulfillment, and motives for action, as well as an acceptance of one's past, an adequate knowledge of one's present, and a willingness to confront the future without forsaking all that has come previously.

debate?

if you've got one foot in the past and one foot in the future, you're pissing on the present.......

I can see where you are coming from.

What I interpret it to be is this: I think its more of a period of time to make yourself happy. Do things for you, and only you. To find out what really makes you tick, makes you happy, motivates you. Kind of like you said.

People tend to get into situations where they are constantly having to deal with other people etc and are unhappy. So in a way it would be to escape all the emotional stress and responsibilities to other people and do things for yourself. Make yourself happy first. Be who you want to be, first.

My opinion.

i believe that people are always changing, so its not like 'finding yourself,' its more like knowing yourself at whatever point in your life you're at.

yea, thats kinda what i mean.

I've never cared for the phrase "find myself" because it's not something I've felt like I've ever had to do. I feel like I was born as myself and will die as myself, although we are all constantly changing. When I hear about people trying to "find themselves," I tend to think that they are stuck in confusion. It also makes me think about people being disconnected from a part of themselves, and although I've felt detached from certain other people or situations before, I've never felt detached from myself. Personally, I don't know what it's like to be confused very much about who I am or what I want. I've always felt in close touch with my thoughts and feelings and can remember being a very thinking and feeling person as a young child. Sometimes, I feel as if I was born as an adult because I don't remember not thinking or feeling on a deep level...ever. I just really can't say that I've gone through a phase in my life where I was trying to "find myself." About the closest thing to it would be choosing my career, but I just see that as there were so many options open to me (since I was good in math, English, science, and social studies) that I had to choose one to specialize in, not as me being confused about what I like. Anyway, here's a quote that I favor that I had posted in another thread previously:

"The self is not something that one finds. It is something that one creates." --Thomas Szasz

I really dig that...and I've realized that others can't be an adequate part of a relationship until they "find themselves" first...because if they haven't, then it will only cause problems for both of you

This is so true. Many people who quote "haven't found theirself" tend to make their existance a dependent one on their partner. This causes a lot of trouble in relationships.

It really is true that if both people know where they are going in life and know what makes them happy the relationship either works, or it doesnt, and you find out real quick and save a lot of heartache in the long run.

Here's the part where you tell the board how wonderful I am.


*halo*

they know.

i thought this was like when your 10 or 11 and you get your first boner.

I think it's...

-being content with yourself (physically and mentally), being comfortable with what you do, and being comfortable in knowing where you're headed (yup, even if that's nowhere. )

finding yourself is when you stop giving a fuck about the small stuff , in order to make room for a life wich you desire.

yea... thats a pretty acurate description i'd say.



either that or its when you touch your peepee a lot, and then for the first time it overreacts and its really sensitive to touch for about 3 or 4 minutes, you think you've broken something... you tell your friends about it, they laugh at you, and call you a pervert.

yea- ive found myself a few times

to find yourself is to find that happy medium..i am almost there...and to find who u truely r

I think there are two different levels of realization about seeking the self. There is knowing it, and that is where all the motivational stuff like career and actions comes in. Where you came from and how that influenced you is an important area to look in when knowing yourself.

FINDING yourself is a whole nother ball game. To those who are truly seeking a connection with that first self, the absolute and pure thought that gives us consciousness, one gives up looking for the self that cannot be found. Then you must accept the responsibility of living as who you are. Finding yourself is about REALIZING that there is no self.

Then, of course.. you are an eternal being,, blah, blah, blah kumbah ya

here's some crystals kidz

You alter yourself ever so slightly multiple times awake/asleep based on the opinions of others. Anyone who has never been alone or accepted a period of solitude and lived within has never taken control of who they are (or found it for that matter).

When you mistake finding yourself with finding god, then you know you are close because the difference between the two truly isn't much more than a semantic partition that gives you the illusion of self.

Right on. The end to polarity. It is inevitable.

To get off the internet?

definitely a requirement...lol

to find ones self?

discovering masturbation.

I ate so much acid when I came down I was completly at rest and comfortable within myself and I felt a love for myself that I had not aknowledged before that. THe second time i found myself was breaking up with someone after 2 + years , and they cheated on me. It was like I woke up and had to decide what to do withmyself. Doing exactly what you want with no regrets is finding yourself.