Crushing on your best friend (advice wanted)

HumanCarl · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 9:41 am

man is this weird.... ive had this crush on my close friend for about 10 months now... some shit went down between us (drunkinly) that i HAVE to address because it seems to be putting a damper on our friendship... and since things are already weird as is, ive got to come clean with my feelings...

it feels like im risking it all though... one path is diamonds... one is gold... i value the gold path so much... and its so valuable... but i want the diamonds, and i want it real bad... but im afraid going after the diamonds might risk it all... not to mention my schedule is so far from anyone elses that i could barely afford the time to maintain the diamond studded path...

Over the past few months and especially the past few weeks ive let this chick closer to my heart then anyone, EVER... and ive never been in a situation like this and i dont know how to handle it...

Id just like some input on some experience you GBN'ers have had dealing with shit like this.. because i am clueless...

Today being new years eve ive decided that it is the best time to come absolutely clean with my feelings towards her... i can only hope that the feelings are mutual, im real nervous about it though :-?

Leslie 2.0 v2 · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 10:29 am

I have this mentality that I never want to have any regrets. You should too. You'll never know how she feels unless you tell her...and if she freaks out and doesn't want to be your friend, then the friendship wasn't that strong.

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for you!!! :heart:

nerdhunters · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 10:29 am

Leslie wrote:

I have this mentality that I never want to have any regrets. You should too. You'll never know how she feels unless you tell her...and if she freaks out and doesn't want to be your friend, then the friendship wasn't that strong.

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for you!!! :heart:

Really good advice.

SoulGrooviest · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 10:37 am

Leslie wrote:

I have this mentality that I never want to have any regrets. You should too. You'll never know how she feels unless you tell her...and if she freaks out and doesn't want to be your friend, then the friendship wasn't that strong.

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for you!!! :heart:

I agree completely.

Lizzard · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 1:46 pm

Tell her how you feel. :heart:

LeAnn · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 2:05 pm

Grab her ass and be like, "Wanna make babies?"

Then she'll know what's up. :slayer:

HumanCarl · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 2:26 pm

After thinking about it for a long while im not gonna bring it up... im just going to let it fester around until it goes away

Kurt · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 2:30 pm

Leslie wrote:

I have this mentality that I never want to have any regrets. You should too. You'll never know how she feels unless you tell her...and if she freaks out and doesn't want to be your friend, then the friendship wasn't that strong.

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for you!!! :heart:

Kurt · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 2:31 pm

LeAnn wrote:

Grab her ass and be like, "Wanna make babies?"

Then she'll know what's up. :slayer:

you are a retard.

moxie · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 5:04 pm

I say you go for it- Rather regret something you have done, than something you haven't [which is totally the opposite to what someone said, but yeah--- [my little twisted optimistic out look :silly:

]] either way good luck!

Lizzard · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 6:03 pm

Eureka! wrote:

After thinking about it for a long while im not gonna bring it up... im just going to let it fester around until it goes away

No, Carl! GO FOR IT!

HumanCarl · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 6:25 pm

naw im not going to... it wouldnt be smart right now... ive been rather emotional and foggy headed as of late... been working too hard... too idealistic... now its time to be realistic

SoulGrooviest · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 6:59 pm

love and relationships are rarely the time when careful planning and realism hold domain. there's a reason for that...

Using logic and using time limits to bound something as spontaneous as love and caring will never work, and often it ends up leaving one with a handful of empty promises and missed opportunities.....

LeAnn · **Posted:** Wed Dec 31, 2003 9:34 pm

whoisdjkdh wrote:

LeAnn wrote:

Grab her ass and be like, "Wanna make babies?"

Then she'll know what's up. :slayer:

you are awesome at the sarcasm.

Thanks.

HumanCarl · **Posted:** Thu Jan 01, 2004 4:16 pm

yeah i got totally avoided by her last night... its over... just like that

Kurt · **Posted:** Thu Jan 01, 2004 5:18 pm

LeAnn wrote:

whoisdjkdh wrote:

LeAnn wrote:

Grab her ass and be like, "Wanna make babies?"

Then she'll know what's up. :slayer:

you are awesome at the sarcasm.

Thanks.

youre still a fucking retard.

Speedtrix · **Posted:** Fri Jan 02, 2004 6:55 am

Eureka! wrote:

yeah i got totally avoided by her last night... its over... just like that

That sucks I am sorry kid, in my days I have learned that best friends make the best girlfriends or boyfriends.

Cadence · **Posted:** Fri Jan 02, 2004 11:36 am

Eureka! wrote:

After thinking about it for a long while im not gonna bring it up... im just going to let it fester around until it goes away

actually i did this once....

and it worked. we still kick it like nothing ever happened. but i dunno, i would only suggest that unless you and the other person have very similar thought processes and can feel out the situation without actually talking about it. but thats a rare case.

hope it works out later.

NextLevelEnt · **Posted:** Thu Jan 15, 2004 6:26 pm

Eureka! wrote:

yeah i got totally avoided by her last night... its over... just like that

Much like myself you seem to read into things to deeply, it is quite possible that she is having the same feelings by you, or that your over analysis of the situation is making you vibe funny towards her. Just hook up with her one on one and tell her straight up, ask her about what went down and see how she feels about it, dont put yourself out there to make it something more, put yourself out there simply to see whats up, either she liked it and wants more but thinks you dont, or she just wants it to be an isolated incedent, and if your happy with either outcome youve got nothing to lose, if your truly happy with either outcome that is. I mean ive got a really good friend that ive hooked up with on occasion over the past 7 years, and we talk about it, but i dont press the issue of a relationship and we maintain a wonderfull friendship. I could care less either way, one way ive got a girl I can talk about all my shit with the other way who knows, i mean it could be great or it could be shitty, things are not always as they seem, those diamonds could be cubic zirconias, in which case your better off with the gold :-D