not to air my dirty family laundry but my dad is quite possibly the largest prick I'm ever going to meet. I made the mistake of telling my dad I had a boyfriend. Nevermind being an adult, not only has he made a snide remark about him ever since but about twenty minutes ago he asks if he's white. I refuse to tell him and he calls me a white girl wannabe amy winehouse crack addict.

he says the most hurtful things for no other reason than just to be a dick. he's going to die a lonely old man and i hope it's sooner than later so that when people ask why my dad upsets me it can be because he's dead not an asshole.

leslie, i apologize in advance.

what a douch.

You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family and that can really suck. Just because he's your dad doesn't mean you have to talk to him. Would let any of your friends talk to you that way? most likely not. quit talking to him.

Im sorry. I hope after everything is said and done these events in your life only make u a stronger person.

My mother was a BITCH just like that. Do what KURT says. I stopped talking to her, calling her... i moved and basically fell off the face of the earth as far as she was concerned. it took two and a half years and the red cross for her to find me. NOW, she's still a bitch but she picks her words with care. she knows now... oh, when all else fails, threaten to put them in a really shitty nursing home when they get old.

good luck...

My mom's side of my family tells me i have all the love I need from them, which is true. But for some reason I just wanted my dad so I'd try and try and try again. But I think this time, I'm done. He took money from me, insults me and myboyfriend. calls my mom's parents immigrants. My grandparents are saints and through everything he's done to me and my mom, they have nothing but nice things to say about him.

what's just really disappointing is that he wont give me his parents phone number, as I had lost it when I lost my phone. I also have a brother that I want to meet but he wont give me that information either.

it's hard. i tried for years to have the same type of relationship with my mother as my brothers but that was not to be. i find that 1500 miles helps us to tolorate each other.

i lost my phone too... if it was recently, fo online and try and access your phone history. i also found that most providers will let you upload and store your phone book as well.

hmm, try one of those background checkers... they may be able to give you some leads as to your dad's history to find your brother yourself.

he told me that his exwife is stationed in japan. so im going to try to see if I can search that route.

my dad lives in puerto rico/new york so we have an ass load of distance between us.

It's going to be sad when he's on his death bead and no one comes.

if he was in the military with the freedom of information act... LOL you can look in to getting a copy of his DD214... this will list all the place that he was stationed...

as for the death bed thing i so understand.., things are bad with my mother but the look like a bed of rose compared to my father. the last time i even spoke to him was 9 year now and could really cared less. the ONLY reason that i even saw him then was trying to have some sort of relationship with the "new" children.

my most recent text from my dad (earlier this week) said "go fuck yourself".

we all got issues.

he's still in the military i know all his info. it's my exstepmother and brother that im trying to find.

issue... HA HA we are the normal one's!!! all those people from those so called perfect home's are serial killers waiting to happen. "we" on the other hand have learned to deal with the screwed up dynamic called "LIFE!!"

i think he seriously has some sort of bipolar disoder. he just texted me with "dont want to bother you, just wanted to say hi" he's wacked.

Surround yourself with those that love you. ;)

It's time for some Bob Marley...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=bq2DC-K_NAo

My mom's manic too. I always try to feel sorry for her but you know what my dad says to that? Excuses are like assholes... everyone's got one.

do you know what state state or where he was married? there should be a marriage liscense some where. that would at least give you a name. if she is active duty military then you can contact the DoD to track her down. an idea...

Words to live by

Hahaha

every year they put out a list , want a copy

this sounds like someone I know but wish I didn't....
luckily, they're not related to me...

IT sux and you try and try to be the glue to have some sort of relationship with DAD/MOM but you get to that point of realization. That you've tried and made serious attempts but your not making yourself happy because these situations never make a person happy. So guilt free(because all of your failed attempts) you let go cause deep down you have accepted it and call it what it really is, poo. So in letting go you put your distance, slight input, and words that use to hurt roll off your back. Sometimes suprisingly enough they are able to see that you are no longer attempting to be that glue or that person. And sometimes they come around. Not always changed but better or maybe its just because your that much stronger.

You can rent my father for a low hourly rate.

will he take me fishing?

Amazingly enough, he doesn't fish.

lol

free 99?